Despite attempts to look calm,cool,and collected like any other man,there are a number a things I will do around an initial date that clue you in that I'm interested.Here are a few:
在与女士第一次约会的时候,我会像其他所有男士一样保持冷静、淡定、从容的态度,尽管如此,你还是可以从我的某些举止中得到暗示,发现我对对方心存好感。比如下面所说的几件事。
1.Completing the Date
不中途逃脱
It may not indicate that you're the apple of my eye,but it does indicate that you're not a total disaster.Most people are courteous enough to do the absolute minimum on a date:finish whatever activity you're doing together and devote sufficient time out of respect for the other person.But some situations are such utter disaster,things must be cut short.
这也许并不能代表你是我的梦中情人,但却能说明,你在我心中并不算糟糕。这是对约会双方的基本礼仪,大多数人都能出于礼貌做到这一点:出于对对方的尊重,无论两人一起做什么都要善始善终,投入足够的时间和精力。不过有的时候局面糟糕透顶,就要速战速决了。
2.One on One
一对一
If I'm into you,and comfortable,I won't want to"share"you.A common tactic to combat a boring date is calling in"reinforcement"friends to"dilute"you.I'm naturally talkative with those around me,but if I invite everyone else around us into our party,I might be looking for a more interesting outlet.
如果我对你有意,和你在一起感到舒服,我一定不会和别人“分享”你的陪伴。当男士们在一次约会中感到无聊时,他们惯常采用的策略就是招来一群“救场”的朋友,好分散他花在你身上的注意力。当我的朋友们在场时,我也会变成话唠,不过如果我和你进行二人约会时也这样招呼来所有的小伙伴,这就说明我想要找个更有趣的出路了。
3.Extending the Date
延长约会的时间
Suggesting something(other than going back to someone's place)after dinner like taking a walk,grabbing a drink,going for dessert,catching a movie,etc.,indicates I'm asking for an encore.
晚餐之后,我提出了友好的建议(而不是去某人家),比如我们去散个步、喝杯酒、吃个甜点、看个电影等等,这都暗示着我想要延长我们的约会。
4.Suggesting Another Date
提议再次约会
Sometimes I get so excited during a first date I play my cards by suggesting other things we should do together.A common time to suggest another date is at the end of the date,though some guys just say this to be friendly.
有时候我在第一次约会时就感到非常开心,这时我就会采取进一步策略,提出各种小建议,下次再一起去做其他活动。一般人会在约会结束时提出下次约会的建议,不过也有人只是出于礼貌才这样说。
5.Friendly Follow-Up Right After You Say Good-bye
告别之后的友好问候
Sometimes after a date,I'll text the girl telling her I had a great time,out of sheer giddiness.If I'm not interested after the date,I'll head straight home and begin my process of fading out of this girl's life.
偶尔在一次约会之后,我会告诉对方我觉得很开心,这完全处于一种意乱情迷的状态。如果我对这次约会并不中意,我就会径直回家,开始采取策略,渐渐淡出这个女孩的生活。
6.Consistency
关系维持的时间长
Hold me to a higher standard than one extra date,or one call back after the initial date.How many times have you gone on a few dates only to have it fizzle out?You can't be sure I'm interested until we've gone out consistently for more than a month.
让我们的关系升级,而不仅仅是再一次约会或者约会完之后打一通电话。你有多少次约会最终是以告吹结束的?如果我们相互邀约的关系已经维持了一个月之久,你就能确信我对你有意了。